Thursday, April 27, 2006
WARNING: This kind of relationship ruins the family.!!! And it resolve to a broken home...
I hate this setup...well who doesn't? What does adultery really means? The common synonym for adultery is infidelity as well as unfaithfulness or cheating. When the man cheats his wife he is committing adultery. And it is now punishable by law. Men by nature are polygamous as they say. And men found hundreds of reasons to cheat.
Top 10 reason why men cheat:
10. his lady doesn't put him up
9. his wife cheated on him first
8. it's challenging and exciting
7. he can get away with it
6. it boosts his ego
5. the opportunity was there
4. his wife is a nag
3. his wife let him
2. his wife doesn't turn him on anymore
1. he don't love her anymore...
See...only 10 among the hundred reasons why men did cheat on their partner. But the male are loosing the bigger picture here...the most affected of all are their children. It break their heart seeing their parents fight and eventually got divorced. Most of the time the men or the women who commits adultery think only of themselves. What can make them happy and what they want to do with their lives. They are forgetting the people they might have a great affect to. How their actions caused problems with their children. No child ever wished that his parents be separated. He hate that set-up. But then who to blame?
Is it the men, the wife or the mistress? Adultery is never a one-way thing. It works both ways, the men committed a mistake yet the wife may have a few mistakes of her own too. In all cases of adultery it differ. You can not entirely blame the male nor the female alone. Both should compromise. Talk how things come to this. And I'm sure you will be able to find the answer right under your noses.
As for the mistress...I strongly believe she also did one huge mistake...committing herself to a married man. And it is clearly written on the ten commandment of the Lord, "Thou shall not covet thy neighbors wife/husband". So we can never say it is only the Male's fault but rather hers too. She is on her right mind when she did this kind of thing. She is in her proper thinking that "hey wait! this guy is married!" So it is in her mind that she is committing a sin right that instant. And as her moral in concerned, she must not engage herself to this kind of commitment. It is her fault too. It is her doing that make her wrong.
Adultery is not normal. I never think that committing such thing is a normal thing for couples. It is never right to think this way. It is wrong. And it is a SIN. Whatever your reasons are...the hell with your reasons! It is always wrong.
My life is not perfect...but I am speaking for myself that adultery is a SIN and should be avoided by all cause. If you love your partner, if you love your kids, if you love God then you will never do such a thing. This is my best opinion regarding adultery. A married person that is being unfaithful to his/her partner is committing adultery. And in the rule of life cheating was never a good practice. Cheating can burn your soul to hell.
If you don't love your partner anymore...break the relationship. It will never ease the pain but it will save you from committing sin. If you fell out of love (which is not impossible) be honest. Let go, let her/him go. The pain will eventually die down and you'll never know, maybe you can be better off as friends. In talking with your partner a lot of things can and may happen. Either you'll go or you'll stay. And in your conversation put GOD in the middle, so both of you can come up with the best solution. Just be honest, talk with your partner, let go then move on. And it is never wrong to find a new love again. IN MY OPINION, ANY RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE PROBLEMS, LIFE IS COMPOSED OF LOTS OF PROBLEMS. IT IS A MATTER OF HOW WE HANDLE THESE PROBLEMS. ADULTERY IS ONE FACE A PROBLEM HAS. AND IN MY BEST OPINION...IT IS VERY WRONG TO CHEAT ON YOUR PARTNER...NEVER!
An old friend of mine was having difficulty with her married life. They are married for I think about less than 5 years now. These is the period where they are now experiencing fights. Some are small fights some are huge fights. To what extent is the huge fight that I don't know. As far as her stories are concerned last December was the worst one. It was a huge fight according to her. There are exchange of words that hurt both of them. And that is the point they brought about "separation". It is not an easy topic to discuss. To cut the long story short, they made it after the fight still holding on together. Days pass, and maybe just maybe, their are still fights in between. Then one day, I received a text message. She said she was hurt and sad. They had a fight again...then the separation thing came again. And she thought that she is loosing the battle. Of course I told her to fight for the marriage. I strongly believe that fights among married couple are normal. Two different people together in one house living together as one. For sure there would be a lot of misunderstanding along the way. The relationship was never easy. Both need to do their best to save the love they have for one another. I knew that love binds them and I don't believe that a few fight should ruin everything. But then again, I told her only SHE can decide. Only SHE can know what she really feels. And only SHE can do what she think and feel is the best for them or for her for that matter.
Once I heard about "7 years itch". Its about 7 years of complete adjustment. 7 years for both the husband and the wife to really get to know each other. And 7 years of many fights, misunderstandings, petty quarrel etc...But after the 7 years, then it will be alright. Alright only IF, you are able to cope up with the undertakings of your marriage. And only IF both of you fight for your marriage and your love. And only then you can surpass the test. The text of the 7 years itch. 7 years itch is not all true to all couples. Some couple can adjust easily, it took them only 3 years to get to know each other. Some lasted for 5 years. But surely, every couple experience bad days sometime in their married life. Whatever you call it...it's all a test. To test your patience with your partner. To test your love for one another. And only true love manage to succeed.
One thing I want to remind her. "No one is better than the one you have." So never run to someone for comfort. Only you and your partner can solve your problem. Anyway...going back to my friend, I also told her that I am hoping for her peace of mind. That she and her husband would patch things up. It is never too late to kiss and make up. It is always the right time to reconcile. It is always the right time to renew the love again. And whatever her decision maybe, it will never be wrong. I am always here for her as a friend. I know that she is really confused right now. With all the fight and the pain that she is undergoing through right now...it is normal to feel lost and confused. Confused...that what I think of her now. She is hurt and lonely. Nobody wants her life to experience this kind of problem. Nobody like problems that got to do with marriage. It hurt us the most if the problem involves someone we truly love. Before her kids...its her husband first. And vice versa. Confusion sometimes lead to hate then betrayal and so on...I hope the confusion will not create a damage as big as to lead them to separation. But as a person who believes in true love, I still have my fingers-crossed that everything would turn out just fine. Not today maybe, but the days to come. It will all come to pass one day.
I was never an expert to any kind of problem. But base on my experiences and base on my way of thinking I know that at one point I know I am right.
Monday, April 24, 2006
Thursday, April 20, 2006
Monday, April 17, 2006
Does zodiac sign really affect these people? Does it have something to do with the moon and the stars while you were born or the time and date you were born? I can't figure that out myself. I'm not an expert on this kind. But I don't know what I was witnessing. I know that 4 people are not enough to judge those people born under this sign. But they all have the same common factor...they are all not so good people. Yet the good part...1 of them is very close to me and the other 1 is trusting me completely with the story of her life.
I want to believe that the characteristics of a people vary differently. We all have different thinking, views and personality. I am different and so are you. I may be bad in some aspect, and so are you. Nobody is perfect and nobody is a saint. Maybe these 4 people are just a victim of fate. It is only coincidental that they are not so good people...
For the record...these 4 people mentioned here maybe bad to the majority. BUT still they are good in some aspect. In some ways they have a good heart inside. Although majority of the people around them found them not so good. They are sometimes victim of the cruelty these people showed them. They are sometimes snubbed and they don't treat this people equally. My personal experience they are all good to me. So it is really difficult to judge these people. I don't like to judge them.
They have a heart, they love, they feel. But they don't show all these feelings to everybody. Outside they are strong, hard-headed and cruel. This is how they manage their lives.
This scorpion boy I know is nearing adulthood. So hard-headed. What he feel like doing he will do it anyway. This scorpion man...treatment to his family is below average...He is good to his friends but not to his family. So sad...
The people who told me the tale of their fate is real. They are the ones who experience the bad actions caused by these scorpion people. And so they strongly believe that people born under this sign are bad people. They don't want to be near these people, and they don't want to do anything with them either. For them it can be anyone but not the scorpion people.
Whatever your zodiac sign may be, whatever month or year you are born it doesn't matter really. What matter most is your personality, how well are you with the people around you. How good are you with these people. How you care, how you love your family, and how you treat your family especially. It is YOU that matter most. It is only YOU who will answer to all your actions...not the zodiacs and not the moon and the stars. It is YOUR responsibility of being a person. How well are you as a human being...
After the Holy Week I AM BACK. My Tita and cousins stayed at home. We chat, eat and laugh almost all the time. At night we would stroll around the block...just to walk. We would stay at a mini park and sit there for an hour. There we would talk like endlessly. We joked and we told stories. We reminisced our past. We slept together; we ate together and stayed up late. (At least it was late for them, but not for me). It was sure fun to have them around. My cousin,Jac, would play with the computer. Ate Gjorg will play with Shagne. I really had a wonderful time. It was short but it was all worth it. Again, I will wait for another holiday to come and for us to be together once more...
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
Sunday, April 09, 2006
Friday, April 07, 2006
Have a nice day people!